It could be that you choose to split all these things down the middle. This may sound reasonable, but, if you don’t earn the same amount of money or have the same financial commitments, 50-50 may not be your solution.
If that’s the case, consider if you'd be comfortable for the higher earner to pay more towards shared costs based on a number that makes sense for you both. Or perhaps you decide that while your partner pays off some debt, you help them stay in budget by eating out less for a while – a move that could even help you build your savings.
Of course, you may decide to keep your money for expenses totally separate, and remain responsible for your own outgoings. There’s no right or wrong way to do things. Two sets of couples with similar financial situations may decide to do things differently – and that’s OK. What matters is discussing expenses and agreeing on how each of you will contribute.
You may find it useful to draw up a budget so you can see how much you can each afford to save. Working out how much you’ll have leftover to put towards your shared goals each month could help you reach them faster.